Robert shared an interesting article, which hit close to heart.
I’ve been through my fair share of attempts, where feelings evolve from friendship but either parties aren’t willing to take the plunge, for fear of ruining everything. And everything means, the connection, care & concern, overall group friendship… So everyone ended up with someone else and the connections, fade away over time.
At least we had fun times together, laughing and sharing…
And some of them had been upgraded to best friends 🙂
And to side track…
Over the year (as i grew older, mature and jaded), i realized it’s rather silly of us (humans) to not give it a shot (if both parties are interested in each other). All too often, those we care most about can be or had been taken from us and once that happened, there isn’t any second chances. And all we will be left with, are regrets.
Well, regrets hurts like a bitch.
And I’m pretty sure most hate having regrets, ‘cos anyone can guilt trip themselves with it for years and it hurts more than a breakup.
It hurts even more, esp. after every “What if we…” …
That’s why i prefer taking chances (after weighing and accepting possible consequences) and making mistakes. At least through every arguments, disagreements and breakups, i learn more about myself and others and what i want / don’t want in a relationship. And i could justify that i’ve tried sufficient times and move on.
At least one thing for sure, as jaded as i am, i still hope to have someone special and know what i wouldn’t want in a relationship and not expect too much. With what’s learnt over the years, it helps in my current relationship…
And of course, it can’t be done without DD’s help, understanding and willingness 🙂
The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one’s relationship has a glowing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing, it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of Divine accident. – Sir Hugh Walpoe